When memory changes become more than forgetfulness: helping a loved one and supporting the family
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Most people misplace keys, forget a name or walk into a room and briefly forget why they went there. Those moments alone do not mean someone has dementia.
Local option: New Plan Care gives families in the St. Louis area in-home help so a parent can stay home: companionship, help with bathing and dressing, meals, and overnight care. Call (314) 405-0887.
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What often causes families to become concerned is a pattern of changes that begins affecting everyday life, judgment, safety or familiar routines.
Changes families may notice
Some early concerns may include:
- Asking the same questions repeatedly
- Missing appointments or forgetting familiar plans
- Difficulty following a recipe or completing a familiar task
- Becoming confused in familiar places
- Trouble managing medications, bills or household responsibilities
- Changes in judgment or decision-making
- Increased anxiety, frustration or withdrawal
- Changes in personal care or daily routines
- Difficulty finding words or following conversations
A medical evaluation is important because memory changes can have many causes. Families should not try to diagnose dementia on their own.
How families can make everyday life easier
When someone is experiencing memory changes, routine can be incredibly helpful.
Try keeping meals, appointments and daily activities on a predictable schedule. Give one direction at a time rather than several instructions at once. Reduce unnecessary noise and distractions when possible and allow extra time for the person to respond.
Just as importantly, try to preserve the things the person can still do independently.
Helping does not have to mean taking over everything.
Family caregivers need support too
Caring for someone experiencing cognitive changes can gradually become a full-time responsibility.
Family members may find themselves:
- checking in multiple times each day
- managing meals and medications
- providing transportation
- handling household responsibilities
- supervising for safety
- helping with personal care
- waking during the night
- rearranging work and family commitments
That can become exhausting even when the caregiver deeply loves the person they are helping.
Where respite care fits
Respite care simply means another trusted caregiver steps in temporarily so the primary family caregiver can step away.
That might mean a few hours so someone can:
- work
- attend appointments
- spend time with their own family
- run errands
- sleep
- attend an event
- simply have uninterrupted time to recharge
Respite does not mean a family is giving up responsibility. It can actually make it easier for family caregivers to continue supporting someone at home.
A professional caregiver can also provide companionship, meals, supervision, personal care assistance and familiar routines while the family caregiver is away.
Planning before a crisis
Families often wait until they are exhausted before asking for help.
Exploring support earlier allows everyone time to become comfortable with another caregiver and gives the person receiving care an opportunity to establish a familiar relationship before needs become more significant.
New Plan Care Solutions believes support should fit the family, not force the family into a predetermined schedule. Care may begin with occasional respite, companionship or a few hours of assistance and change as needs change.
The same points are in a short first-party guide you can keep and share with family.
New Plan Care Solutions
Respite does not mean a family is giving up. A professional caregiver can provide companionship, meals, supervision, personal care assistance and familiar routines while you step away. New Plan Care Solutions is an independently owned non-medical in-home care company based in Chesterfield, Missouri, whose caregivers help with daily routines, meals, bathing and dressing, companionship, overnight presence and supervision at home in Ballwin, Chesterfield, Eureka, Glencoe, Grover, Pacific, Valley Park and St. Louis. It does not publish an hourly rate and neither do we.
Call (314) 405-0887.